શનિવાર, 14 મે, 2022

Comparison between generations

*કેવો સુંદર જવાબ!*👌✅👌✅😳🤔

*બે પેઢી વચ્ચેની સરખામણી*



એક યુવાને 
તેના પિતાને પૂછ્યું: 
"તમે લોકો પહેલા કેવી રીતે રહેતા હતા?
ટેક્નોલોજી ન હતી
કાર કે પ્લેન નહીં
ઇન્ટરનેટ નહીં
કોમ્પ્યુટર નહીં
મોલ નહીં
કલર ટીવી નહીં
મલ્ટિપ્લેક્સ સિનેમા નહીં
મોબાઈલ ફોન નહીં
સારી હોટેલો, રેસ્ટોરન્ટ નહીં
સારા કપડા નહીં
હીલ સ્ટેશન પર ફરવા જવાનું નહીં

*તેના પિતાએ જવાબ આપ્યો:*
*જેમકે તમારી પેઢી આજે કેવી રીતે જીવે છે?* અમને આશ્ચર્ય થાય છે...👇

કોઈ પ્રાર્થના નથી
કરુણા નથી
કોઈ સન્માન નથી
કોઈ માન નથી
મોટો પરિવાર નથી
શરમ નથી
નમ્રતા નથી
સમયનું આયોજન નથી
રમતગમત નથી
વાંચન નથી
ખેતીકામ નથી
ગુરુ પ્રત્યે આદર નથી

"અમે, 
1950 -1980 ની વચ્ચે
 જન્મેલા આશીર્વાદિત લોકો છીએ.
અમે જીવંત નવલકથા છીએ.
👉 
રમતી વખતે અને 
સાયકલ ચલાવતી વખતે
 અમે ક્યારેય
 હેલ્મેટ પહેરી ન હતી.
👉 
શાળા પછી અમે 
સાંજ સુધી રમતા. 
અમે ક્યારેય ટીવી જોયું નથી.
👉 
અમે સાચા મિત્રો સાથે રમ્યા, 
ઈન્ટરનેટ મિત્રો સાથે નહિ.
👉 
જો અમને ક્યારેય 
તરસ લાગે તો અમે 
નળનું પાણી પીધું, 
બોટલનું પાણી નહીં.
👉 
અમે ચાર મિત્રો સાથે એક જ ગ્લાસ શરબત શેર કરતા હોવા છતાં અમે ક્યારેય બીમાર થયા નથી.
👉 
અમારું વજન ક્યારેય વધ્યું નથી કારણકે અમે રોજ રોટલો દહીં અથાણું ખાતા હતા.
👉 
ખુલ્લા પગે ફરવા છતાં અમારા પગને કંઈ થયું નથી. કાંટા અમારાથી દૂર રહેતા.
👉 
અમારા માતા અને પિતાએ અમને સ્વસ્થ રાખવા માટે ક્યારેય કોઈ સપ્લીમેન્ટ્સનો ઉપયોગ કરવા દીધો નથી. મગફળી,ગોળ, બાજરાનો - ઘઉં નો પોંક, મકાઈના ડોડા અને ક્યારેક શેરડી નો સાંઠો મળે એટલે ભૈયો ભૈયો.
👉 
અમે અમારા પોતાના રમકડા બનાવતા અને તેની સાથે રમતા, ધુળમાં, રેતીમાં દેશી રમતો રમતા. વાગેતો કાળી માટી લગાવી દેતાં... દુઃખ ગાયબ.
👉 
અમારા માતા-પિતા શ્રીમંત ન હતા. 
તેઓએ અમને પ્રેમ અને સંસ્કાર આપ્યા
દુન્યવી ભૌતિક સાધન સામગ્રી નહીં.
👉 
અમારી પાસે ક્યારેય
 સેલફોન, ડીવીડી, 
પ્લે સ્ટેશન, એક્સબોક્સ,
 વિડીયો ગેમ્સ, 
પર્સનલ કોમ્પ્યુટર, 
ઈન્ટરનેટ ચેટ નહોતા - 
પણ 
અમારે સાચા મિત્રો હતા તે અમારા માટે નેટવર્ક નું કામ કરતા..
👉 
અમે અમારા મિત્રોના ઘરની બિનઆમંત્રિત મુલાકાત લીધી અને તેમની સાથે ભોજનનો આનંદ માણ્યો.
👉 
તમારી દુનિયાથી વિપરીત, 
અમારે નજીકમાં રહેતા સંબંધીઓ હતા જેથી કુટુંબનો સમય અને સંબંધો એક સાથે માણવામાં આવ્યા. મામા ,માસી ,ફઈ નો પ્રેમ જોવા તમારે એક પેઢી આગળ જન્મ લેવાની જરૂર હતી.
👉 
અમે ભલે બ્લેક એન્ડ વ્હાઇટ ફોટામાં હતા પણ તમને એ ફોટામાં રંગીન યાદો જોવા મળશે. અમે હવે અમે તમારા માટે કલર ઝેરોક્ષ છીએ.
👉 
અમે એક અનોખી અને સૌથી વધુ સમજદાર પેઢી છીએ, 
*કારણ કે અમે એવી છેલ્લી પેઢી છીએ જેમણે તેમના માતા-પિતાનું નત મસ્તકે સાંભળ્યું છે.*
ઉપરાંત, 
*એવી પ્રથમ  પેઢી છીએ જેઓએ તેમના બાળકો પાસેથી પણ સાંભળવુ પડ્યું છે.* *હજી પણ બાળકો ઘઘલાવે છે પણ અમે સાંભળી લઈએ છીએ*

અને અમે એવા લોકો છીએ જેઓ હજુ પણ વધુ સ્માર્ટ છીએ અને તમને તે ટેક્નોલોજીનો ઉપયોગ કરવામાં મદદ કરી રહ્યા છીએ જે અમે તમારી ઉંમરના હતા ત્યારે ક્યારેય અસ્તિત્વમાં જ ન હતું... જોયું જ ન હતું.
તેથી તમારા માટે એ વધુ સારું છે કે અમે આ પૃથ્વી અને તમારા જીવનમાંથી અદૃશ્ય થઈએ તે પહેલાં.
તમે...
અમારાથી આનંદ લો.
 અમારી પાસેથી શીખો. અમે હરતી ફરતી યુનિવર્સિટી છીએ.

આમ જોવા જઈએ તો..
*અમે એક અનલીમિટેડ ડીશ છીએ*

તમે ધરાઈ જશો. જો પચાવી શકો તો અમને માણો 

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

બુધવાર, 11 મે, 2022

Heart touching short matters

*વાત બહુ સરળ લખી છે પણ  સમજતા વાર લાગશે*✨*ગુજરાતી ભાષા સાહિત્યમાં રસ હોવો જોઈએ તો મજા આવશે...*✨*1.**બે સજ્જનો મારામારી કરી રહ્યા હતા**પૂછતાં માલુમ પડ્યું કે 'અહિંસા' વિશે ડિબેટ ચાલી રહી હતી*   - હિતેશ તરસરિયા✨*2.**ગરમીએ શેઠજીને દવા લેવડાવી,**નોકર તો રોજ લીમડો વાટીને પીતો.*     – પરીક્ષિત જોશી✨*૩.**કેવો લાગુ છું?” શ્યામવર્ણ પતિએ પત્નીને પૂછ્યું.**”કાળીના એક્કા જેવા.”* – સંજય ગુંદલાવકર✨*4.**મારી પાસે ઘર હતું,**આજે પૈસા છે...*    -નિમેષ પંચાલ✨*5*.*બપોરનો તડકો**જીવનમાં લાગેલી લાય કરતાય,**આજ મીઠો લાગ્યો!*   – તૃપ્તિ ત્રિવેદી✨*6.**એ ખુલ્લાં પગે માતાજીના મંદિરે દર્શન કરવા ગયો.* *માનતા માની.**જો મારી પત્ની આ વખતે દીકરો જણસે તો,**એ ૧૧ કુંવારીકાને જમાડશે.*     -દક્ષા દવે✨*7.**વૃદ્ધાશ્રમમાં બે વેવાણ મળ્યા.**આંખો જ બોલી છે વાંક કોનો!*   - દેવદત ઠાકર.✨*8.**પત્ની પિયર ગઈ…**ટીફીનમાં મનપસંદ મળ્યું.*  – દિવ્યેશ સોડવડીયા✨*9**લક્ઝુરિયસ બંગલાના બેડરૂમમાંથી રાત્રે ઊંઘ ન આવવાના કારણે બહાર લટાર મારવા નીકળેલા એક શેઠે ફૂટપાથ પર ઘસઘસાટ ઊંઘતા માણસોને જોઇને કહ્યું કેવી જિંદગી જીવે છે આ લોકો?* - નિલેશ શ્રીમાળી પાટણ✨*10**આ વધારાનાં વૃક્ષો કાપીને મેદાન સાફ કરો,**અહીં વૃક્ષારોપણનો કાર્યક્રમ ગોઠવવાનો છે...*   -હિતેશ તરસરિયા✨*11.**"ગઈ-કાલે પેઇન્ટિંગ કોમ્પિટિશન હતી,* *વિજેતાઓને ઇનામ આપી દેવાયા છે*, *હવે આ કાગળ કંઈ કામના નથી,* *સળગાવી નાખ"**ક્લાર્ક દ્વિધામાં હતો,* *દરેક કાગળ પર બાળકોએ લખેલું હતું* *'SAVE TREES'*        -હિતેશ તરસરિયા✨*12.**વૃદ્ધાશ્રમમાં એક નવી સાડીને તરસતી માના દીકરાએ*, *યમુનાજીનો ચૂંદડી મનોરથ કરાવ્યો.**પાછું ફેસબુક પર સ્ટેટ્સ મૂક્યું:**"મા ના ખોળે !!!"*✨*_ગમ્યું હોય તો તમામ સાહિત્ય રસિકોને ફોરવર્ડ કરો_*🍁🍁🍁

મંગળવાર, 10 મે, 2022

The Brahmins

*POOR BRAHMINS*It is amazing to see that how fiction can become truth in course of time!Let's examine truth based on facts and real history. *1.* To start with, there is not a SINGLE Brahmin God in Hinduism!*2.* All Gods are from backward castes, dalits and tribals.*3*. Brahmins never created the concept of Gods in Hinduism. *4.* There was not even a SINGLE Brahmin king that ruled India.*5.* To be able to oppress others requires positions of power. Brahmins were teachers, scholars, priests, advisors but not rulers.*6*. The Brahmins' traditional occupation was that of temple priest (purohit), officiating religious functions. Their sole income was _biksha_ (alms) given by the landlords (non-Brahmins).*7.* Another section of Brahmins were teachers, that too without salary.*8*. Vedic literature was mostly written by non-Brahmins. The most powerful of the dharma shaastra, that gives Brahmins a high status, is the Manusmriti written by Manu, a non-Brahmin. Brahmin means a profession (Varna) - not a caste.*9.* If the reading and writing of Sanskrit was confined to Brahmins, then how do you have the tribal Valmiki composing Ramayana? Ved Vyas, who classified four Vedas and wrote Mahabharata, was born to a fisherwoman.*10*. Sanskrit was used mostly by non-Brahmin writers - there are very few scriptures in Sanskrit authored by Brahmins.*11*. We consider the teachings of Ved Vyas, Vashishta, Valmiki, Krishna, Rama, Agasthya, Vishwamitra, Shrunga, Gowtama, Buddha, Mahavira, Tulsidas, Thiruvalluvar, Kabir, Vivekananda, Narayana guru etc. as most valuable.*12*. If none of them were Brahmins, why cry out loudly that "Brahmins did not allow you to learn?" There are numerous works on bhakti by non-Brahmin bhakti saints.*13.* Brahmins never prevented others from learning.*14*. Brahmins were neither rich nor powerful at any point of time in history. Pick up any old Indian story book, you will see _gharib_ Brahmin’ (Poor Brahmin) quoted as a virtue. (Remember Sudama-Krishna story?)*15.* Though their profession was considered as highest stature of the society, the Brahmin ascetics' only way of survival was alms given by people.*16.* The biggest contribution of Brahmins is sustaining the best language ever spoken in the earth - Sanskrit. If you learn English or Arabic, you have commercial benefits.*17*. Nobody ever promoted Sanskrit.Without any benefits, Brahmins took up voluntary task of learning Sanskrit. Now you accuse them of monopoly in Sanskrit!Besides, Brahmins were not Kings. They didn't enjoy powers or had wealth. They worked hard on gaining knowledge and led life of austerity. So there is no question of exploitation by Brahmins.When population of Brahmins range from just 2% in Tamil Nadu to 12% in Uttarakhand, how can they dominate the majority?After reading all this can anyone blame Brahmins?*Please forward to as many as possible and kill this virus of misinformation dividing the society.*

સોમવાર, 9 મે, 2022

How to live

Very nice article by Late  Khushwant Singh. Preserve this .😊How To Live & DieI’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness. 1- First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness. 2- Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes. 3- Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them. 4- Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to be quarrelling all the time. 5- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others. 6- Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering. 7- Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfill you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully. 8- Eighth, every morning and evening devote 15 minutes to introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do. 9- Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on. 10- Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a Person without any regret or grievance against anyone.😊Really nice one😊 🎄👉It is not just a forward but means a lot☺👍💐

Importance of walking

▪️Interestingly,  50%  of a  person's  bones & 50%  of  the   muscles, are  in  the  two  legs. *Do walk*▪️The  largest &  strongest  joints & bones  of  the   human body   are  also  in  the  legs. *3-7k steps / day*▪️Strong   bones, strong  muscles  and flexible   joints   form  the *Iron  Triangle*   that  carries  the  most important   load   i.e.  *the  human  body."*▪️70%  of  human activity and burning  of energy in  one's  life  is done  by  the  two  feet.▪️Do  you  know  this ? When a  person  is  young,   his/ her  *thighs have  enough  strength , to lift  a  small car of  800 kg !*▪️The *foot  is  the center of  body locomotion*.▪️Both  the   legs together  have  50%   of the   nerves    of   the  human  body,  50%   of  the   blood  vessels  and  50%  of   the   blood   is flowing  through   them.▪️ It  is  the  largest  circulatory  network  that connects  the   body. *So walk daily.*▪️Only *when  the feet are  healthy then  the convention current  of blood  flows ,  smoothly,   so  people who  have  strong  leg muscles  will  definitely have  a strong  heart.* Walk. ▪️Aging  starts  from  the  feet  upwards▪️As  a   person  gets older, the  accuracy & speed  of  transmission  of instructions   between the  brain and   the  legs decreases, unlike  when a  person  is  young. *Please walk*▪️In   addition,   the   so-called   Bone  Fertilizer Calcium will  sooner  or later  be  lost  with  the passage  of  time,  making  the   elderly  more  prone  to   bone fractures. *WALK.*▪️Bone  fractures  in  the  elderly   can  easily  trigger  a  series   of complications, especially  fatal  diseases   such  as   brain   thrombosis.▪️Do  you   know   that 15% of elderly  patients   generally, will  die  max. within  a  year  of   a  thigh-bone   fracture !! *Walk daily without fail*▪️ *Exercising  the legs,   is   never  too  late, even  after   the  age  of 60  years.*▪️Although   our   feet/legs  will   gradually   age with    time,  exercising  our  feet/ legs  is  a  life-long  task.  *Walk 3000-7000 steps*▪️Only  by regular strengthening   the  legs, one   can   prevent   or reduce  further  aging. *Walk 365 days*▪️ Please  walk  for at  least 30-40  minutes   daily   to  ensure   that   your   legs  receive   sufficient   exercise and  to  ensure  that  your  leg  muscles remain healthy.*You  should   share  this  important  information  with  all  your  40+years"  friends & family  members, as everyone  is  ageing  on  a  daily  basis*..._

શનિવાર, 7 મે, 2022

Defensive medical practice

Changing time force professionals to safeguard their well-being. *Defensive Medicine and what it means to you and your family (non-doctors)* 
-by Dr. Pranav Kodial

This article is primarily for non-doctors, to create awareness about the fast-growing problem of Defensive Medicine, a problem that will soon affect every non-doctor and his family.

_“Staring at danger may not be pleasant – but closing your eyes will not make the danger go away, and with closed eyes, you will surely be destroyed by it.”_
― Isaac Asimov, Catastrophes!

I watched the lady leave my surgeon friend's consulting room with a disappointed look on her face. Then I turned to my friend, puzzled. "I don't understand...why did you refer this patient elsewhere saying that her case is too difficult for you? As far as I know, you are the best in Mumbai for this type of cancer surgery."

My colleague looked at me gravely and said, "What you don't know, is that lady is closely related to Mr. ABC. The same fellow who gathered a mob and attacked our gynaec colleague last year, blaming her for his daughter's C-section complications."

He continued with a sigh, "I am fully confident of operating this lady, even though her case is complicated. But I am also fully confident that if anything goes wrong, ABC's goonda-mob will burn down my hospital and/or beat me to death."

I said nothing. I couldn't blame my friend at all. He had chosen his personal safety over the patient's well-being. सर सलामत तो पगडी हजार, as they say in Hindi. But I also felt sorry for the patient. She could have benefited from Mumbai's foremost expert in that specialised cancer surgery, but now wouldn't because my colleague was practicing 'Defensive Medicine'.

You may not have heard this term before.

Defensive Medicine is a type of clinical practice wherein a doctor manages a patient in the interest of his own safety rather than the betterment of the patient.

It is the tragic but inevitable result of widespread violence (verbal and physical) and reckless litigation (suing for malpractice) many doctors in India have to suffer if something goes wrong with their patients, despite doing their best for them.

More on that later but first, how does Defensive Medicine affect you and your family?

Defensive Medicine affects you depending on its type: 'positive' or 'negative'.

Usually, doctors use their own judgement, knowledge and skills to investigate and treat an illness. Only the most common or likely diagnosis is suspected first, investigated and treated accordingly. And then only if necessary, additional advanced and costly investigations, specialist referrals and treatment is advised.

In Positive Defensive Medicine, doctors don't want to take any chances. They fear that if they don't consider a rare diagnosis or uncommon/expensive treatment right at the beginning, the patient and his relatives may later accuse them of negligence—why they did not recommend that test/ specialist referral or treatment in the first place. Consequently, these doctors may advise every kind of test and treatment, so as not to miss anything.

And guess who has to suffer and pay for all that? Yes, you and your family.

Next, Negative Defensive Medicine. 

Many doctors are beginning to believe that it is far better to be known as a mediocre doctor but remain alive and healthy, than become an excellent and famous but psychologically broken, physically crippled or dead doctor.

Like my surgeon friend, they don't want to accept difficult cases even though they can successfully treat them. Forget that, some doctors transfer even EASY cases where the patient or relatives appear even slightly demanding and aggressive—warning signs that they might sue or beat up the doctor in case of any complication or "failure" of treatment.

Doctors now often assess whether the patient and his relatives are 'safe' and THEN decide whether to treat them. Yes, 'safe'...never thought this term could be applied in this context, no?

Again, guess who suffers the expense and inconvenience of transfers, and deprivation of less expensive expert care? Correct. It's you and your family.

By now you must be asking yourself: How bad is the problem?

Answer: Defensive Medicine _is_ on the rise in India. And it's growing exponentially with every incident of unwarranted litigation and violence to doctors.

At this point, sensitive, intelligent and proactive citizens would probably want to know: "Then what should WE do to help? How can we make our doctors feel safe so they can give us of their best without the swords of violence and litigation hanging over their heads?"

Answer: Most problems can be solved with correct understanding.

Understand that the news media and public gossip thrives on sensationalism. Use your intelligence and don’t get influenced by the emotionally charged ‘news reports’ and juicy gossip condemning some doctor for malpractice. Understand that there is another side to the storcy—the doctor’s side—which will never become public. Even worse are ‘social activists’, politicians and celebrities—nothing gets them more moral, social and political mileage than ‘exposing’ professionals of a noble profession. Tip: Note how their language and presentation subtly (or even overtly!) flaunts their own moral and ‘compassion’ superiority whilst simultaneously lamenting the degradation of medical ethics. 

Understand that no doctor wants to hurt or kill your patient. Why should he? In fact, the successful management of your patient will enhance his reputation. Understand that after a serious complication, the doctor feels as bad as (or worse than) the patient and his relatives.

Understand that Medicine is an imperfect science where an imperfect human being treats another imperfect human being using imperfect methods, all of whose fate is decided by God. If you are an atheist, then call it Destiny or 'factors beyond human control'.

Therefore, understand that complications and death are an UNAVOIDABLE part of medical treatment. There will ALWAYS be complications and deaths while treating a patient. Repeat, ALWAYS.

So if things go well for your patient, praise God, not the doctor. And if things go bad for your patient, don't blame the doctor. Accept it as one of the challenges/ difficult situations that God-Destiny brings into everyone's life.

Understand that healthcare services are not like a car garage or Zomato or Pizza Hut services. Don't expect 'results' just because you spent money. This grossly incorrect, consumerist _paisa-vasool_ attitude of many patients has greatly contributed to the problem. Labelling patients as consumers has done a great disservice to healthcare—for both doctors AND patients. As explained above, God decides the results. Let us deeply assimilate this truth.

Understand that every doctor fixes his fees according to his skill, knowledge, experience, and hospital/clinic expenses. You are paying his fees for all that, and NOT for results.

Understand that the high cost of medical treatment in many cases is not necessarily because of the doctor being a greedy _lootera._ It is often because medical scientific advancement comes at a price—cost of new medical equipment and machines, necessary maintenance and material for the same, the cost of training the doctors incur for that expertise etc. You want advanced treatment at unreasonably low cost? Pressurise the government to provide such healthcare. Fun fact: Indian governments (State and Central) have one of the lowest healthcare expenditures in the WORLD!

Understand that healthcare expenditure is NOT unnecessary or wasteful expenditure. Especially if you don't mind spending on things like expensive smartphones, cars, restaurants, liquor, cigarettes, shopping sprees, vacation trips etc. Understand that doctors try to keep you alive and well. Consider your medical expenditure as investing in yourself. Tip: Following a proper diet, exercise, sleep, relaxation and regular health check-up schedule will save you a lot on medical expenses.

If you do strongly feel negligence has occurred in your or your patient's management, seek legal help. Resist the temptation to resort to violence (verbal and physical). Resist relatives and friends and 'well-wishers' who poison your mind against your doctor and encourage you to act wrongly. Especially 'helpful' political people and 'social workers' who will only want to use your tragedy to get political and social mileage. Remember, it may be that the doctor has genuinely tried his best for your patient. Then punishing your genuine well-wisher who has sincerely cared for you/ your loved one will be your most sinful action in this life.

If you are in a situation where your friends and family have begun to unnecessarily blame the doctor for their patient's death or complication, console them and then convince them that it is the will of God and taking out their anger and sorrow on the doctor is wrong and won't help matters. Your words of wisdom may make them understand the situation in the correct, positive way.

Hopefully, with an effort by patients to become ideal, respectful patients, and also by doctors to become ideal, ethical doctors, we can restore the glory of the doctor-patient relationship and eliminate Defensive Medicine.

By now you must be wondering, “But what’s all the fuss about? Why should doctors stoop to Defensive Medicine? Why are they so afraid of litigation? Can't a doctor easily prove in court that he did the right thing and be declared innocent of malpractice?

Answer: Yes, many doctors can successfully defend themselves in court, but only after enduring torturous mental stress for months and years—you know how courts work in India. All that unnecessary stress because they did their job correctly, but the patient and his relatives wanted to blame their doctor for their bad luck.

Also, our Indian public and media act as self-appointed fast-track courts and award punishments much before our regular courts. By the time the regular court declares a doctor innocent, the media and public trials have already sliced and diced his reputation.

In the US and many other western countries, rampant and often greed-fuelled (for undeserved compensation) litigation has resulted in 50 to 90% of doctors practising Defensive Medicine. I dread the day we begin to see these statistics in India.

Your next question will be, “Is the violence issue _really_ that bad? We don't hear of that many instances…”

Answer: Violence to doctors in India _is_ bad—up to 75% of Indian doctors have faced it at least once in their life. And remember that it can be both verbal and physical. It's just that you don't get to hear about it every day. Like domestic abuse or workplace molestations, 99.9% of the victims would much rather suffer it silently, than make a noise and become the subject of public gossip.

Also, violence against doctors goes unpunished in India, or at best, 'punished' with a token rap on the knuckles. Tragically, it is fully supported by much of the public, politicians, the government and the law—illegal FIRs registered against doctors by the police themselves, public support on social media for every violence incident, our politicians turning a deaf ear to every plea to enact severe laws for these crimes...the list goes on.

"Okay, okay," you will say, "but doctors have brought this upon themselves, haven't they? So many doctors indulge in unethical practice...so naturally the public will get frustrated..."

Answer: We all live in a world that is going from bad to worse regarding morals and ethics, especially dishonesty and greed. The doctor community too has its share of evil, disgusting _kalanks_ (tar-black sheep) on the name of the noble medical profession, deserving of SEVERE punishment by our medical council. There is a tremendous lot doctors need to introspect about and change regarding themselves and medical practice.

But does that condone your taking the law into your hands?

And isn't this moral and ethical degradation true with ALL professions and jobs? How many times have you experienced/ heard of wrong judgements by 'fixed' judges, loss of lakhs of rupees to lawyers who lost your cases, bribes to ever-hungry government officers, substandard products that have even endangered your life etc? In these cases, how many times have you collected a mob and threatened or thrashed those judges, lawyers, government officers, product manufacturers etc? Or destroyed their offices and establishments?

Not once. Why? Because they are effectively protected by Law. Unfortunately, not so with doctors in India.

The most frustrating and bitter reality for doctors is that our society assumes the doctor to be wrong unless proven otherwise. Worse, it sympathizes with these violent relatives-mob and actually CONDONES their violence, excusing them for their 'disturbed state of mind after their patient's complication or death'. Imagine what would happen if everyone started using violence to vent their anger on others citing 'disturbed state of mind' as a valid excuse...

Finally, you must know that doctors practising Defensive Medicine are not proud of it. In fact, there is nothing more shameful and frustrating for doctors than to practice their profession in this way. Because managing every patient properly, especially a difficult case, is a very fulfilling achievement for a doctor.

But being a human being just like yourself, many doctors are now increasingly being forced to prioritise the safety of their own life, limb and property, over doing the right thing.

Sad, isn't it?

Sad not just for doctors, but also for you and your family.

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Happy life of a senior citizen

*S E N I O R    C I T I Z E N S - 2022*

▪When you get old, never teach anyone anything, unless requested, even if you are sure you are right. 
▪Do not try to help unless asked for. Just be ready & available for it if possible.
▪️Do not give unsolicited opinion all the time.
▪️Do not expect everyone to follow your opinion, even though you feel your opinion was the best...
▪Don't impose yourself on anyone on any subject. 
▪Don't try to protect your loved ones from all the misfortunes of the World. Just love them & pray for them.
▪Don't complain about your health, your neighbours, your retirement, your woes all the time.
▪Don't expect gratitude from children. 
▪There are no ungrateful children, there are only stupid parents, who expect gratitude from their children. 
▪Don't waste your last money on anti - age treatments. It's useless.
▪Better spend it on a trip. It's always worth it.
▪Take care of your spouse, even if he/she becomes a wrinkled, helpless and moody old person. Don't forget he/she was once young, good looking and cheerful, may be he/she is the only one who really needs you right now.
▪Understand new technologies, obsessively follow the News, constantly study something new, a new skill, a new dish, a new indoor game, do not fall behind in time. 
▪Don't blame yourself for whatever happened to your life or to your children's lives, you did everything you could.
▪Preserve your dignity & integrity in any situation, till the end. 
▪Do your best, my senior Peers. This is very important. Remember, you're still alive, someone needs you.
▪I guess some friends are already following these tips. 

All the Best  👍👍```
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સોમવાર, 2 મે, 2022

How much I have changed?

હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
રોટલી પર ઘી ને ખાંડ લગાવી ભૂંગળું
ખાવાથી મળતો આનંદ મેકડોનાલ્ડના બર્ગર કે ડોમિનોઝના પિત્ઝામાંથી પણ નથી મળતો
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
સાંધેલા ચપ્પલ પહેરીને મોટા ડુંગરાઓ ચડી જતો પણ આજે એડીદાસના શુઝ ડંખ્યા કરે છે
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
ખેતર કે વગડામાં ઝાડવા નીચે
પાથર્યા વગર પણ ઘસઘસાટ ઉંઘી જતો ને આજે એસી રૂમમાં પણ સતત પડખા બદલ્યા કરુ છું
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
વેકેશનમાં મામાની ઘરે આખો મહીનો રહેતો એ મામા માત્ર મારા મોબાઇલમાં સેવ થયેલા છે વાત થતી નથી કે મળાતું નથી
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
બે ચાર મિત્રોનો સહવાસ આખી દુનિયા સાથે છે એવી અનુભૂતિ કરાવતો અને આજે ફેસબુકમાં હજારો મિત્રો હોવા છતા સાવ એકલો હોઉં એમ લાગે છે
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
કંઇ ખબર ન પડવા છતાય મંદિરમાં આંખ બંધ કરીને બેસતો અને ભગવાનની મૂર્તિ દેખાતી આજે મોટી મોટી ધ્યાન શિબિરો પણ મનને સ્થિર નથી કરી શકતું
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
અગરબતીની સાથે સાવ મફતમાં આવતા અતરની સુવાસ દિવસો સુધી આવતી અને આજે નોટીકાના મોંઘા પરફ્યુમની સુવાસ બે સેકન્ડ પણ નથી અનુભવી શકતો
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
ઠીકરાની પાટી અને માટીના પેનની મઝા આઇફોન અને આઇપેડ પાસે સાવ ઝાંખી પડે છે
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
બેંક બેલેન્સ વધવા છતા પણ દિવસે દિવસે આનંદ ઘટતો જાય છે
*હું કેટલો બદલાઇ ગયો છું*
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