Mental peace

*માનસિક શાંતિ માટેના ઉપાયો.*

✅ પારકી પંચાત કરશો નહી.
✅ તમામ પરિસ્થિતિ મા શાંત રહેજો.
✅ કડવા ઘુટડા ગળી જજો.
✅ કદી જીવ બાળશો નહી.
✅ તમારા કામકાજના વખાણ બીજા કરે એવું ઝંખશો નહી.
✅ કોઈની ઈર્ષા કરશો નહી.
✅ તમે જ તમારી જાતને સુધારો.
✅ જે અનિવાર્ય હોય તે સહન કરી લો.
✅ તમારી ફરજ ચુકશો નહી.
✅ રોજ ધ્યાનમાં બેસો.
✅ સતત સત્કાર્યમાં પરોવાયેલા જ રહો.
✅ નિસ્વાર્થ સેવા કરો.
✅ સારા-નરસા નો વિવેક કરતાં શીખો.
✅ જરૂરિયાત ઘટાડો.
✅ કરવા યોગ્ય જ કામ કરો.
✅ ખંતપૂર્વક સદ્દગુણો કેળવો.
✅ હિંમત હારી જાઓ ત્યારે ધર્મગ્રંથોનુ વાંચન કરો.
✅ માગ્યા વગર સલાહ આપવા દોડી જશો નહી.
✅ દલીલબાજી થી દૂર રહો.
✅ બધામાં ઈશ્વર દર્શન કરો.
✅ જીવનમાં આવતા દુખોને પણ ઈશ્વરની પ્રસાદી માની સ્વીકારી લો.

How To Live & Die

Khushwant Singh.

How To Live & Die

I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.

1- First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.

2- Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.

3- Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.

4- Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a girlfriend or a best friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to accept the differences than to be quarrelling all the time.

5- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.

6- Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

7- Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfill you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully.

8- Eighth, every morning and evening devote 20 minutes to meditation or introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.

9- Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.

10- Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a Person without any regret or grievance against anyone.

🎄👉It is not just a forward but means a lot👍

People

Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.
– Albert Einstein

LIFE BETWEEN 55 and DEATH

Read slowly.

"BETWEEN 55 and DEATH".

1. It’s TIME to use the MONEY you SAVED UP. Use it and ENJOY it.  DON'T just keep it for those who may have NO NOTION of the SACRIFICES you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more DANGEROUS than a SON or DAUGHTER- IN- LAW with BIG ideas for your HARD-EARNED capital.

Warning: This is also a BAD TIME for INVESTMENTS, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to ENJOY some PEACE and QUIET.

2. STOP WORRYING about the financial situation of your CHILDREN and grandchildren, and don’t feel BAD spending your MONEY on YOURSELF. You’ve taken care of them for many YEARS, and you’ve TAUGHT them what you could. You gave them an EDUCATION, FOOD, SHELTER and SUPPORT. The RESPONSIBILITY is now theirs to EARN their OWN MONEY.

3. Keep a HEALTHY LIFE, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like WALKING🌹 every day), EAT well and get your SLEEP. It’s easy to become SICK, and it gets HARDER to remain HEALTHY. That is why you need to keep yourself in GOOD SHAPE and be aware of your MEDICAL and PHYSICAL needs🌹🌹🌹. Keep IN TOUCH with your DOCTOR, do TESTS even when you’re feeling WELL🌹. Stay informed.

4. Always buy the BEST, most BEAUTIFUL items for your significant other. The key goal is to ENJOY your MONEY with your PARTNER. One day ONE of YOU will MISS the OTHER, and the MONEY will NOT provide any COMFORT then, ENJOY IT TOGETHER🌹🌹🌹.

5. Don’t stress over the little things. You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

6. Regardless of AGE, always keep LOVE ALIVE. Love your PARTNER, love LIFE, love your FAMILY, love your NEIGHBOR and remember: “A man is NOT OLD as long as he has INTELLIGENCE and AFFECTION.”

7. Be PROUD, both inside and out. DON'T STOP going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your PERFUMES and CREAMS well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel PROUD and STRONG.

8. Don’t LOSE sight of FASHION TRENDS for your AGE, but keep your own SENSE of STYLE. There’s nothing WORSE than an OLDER person trying to WEAR the current fashion among YOUNGSTERS. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be PROUD of it. It’s part of WHO YOU ARE.

9. ALWAYS stay UP-to-DATE. Read NEWSPAPERS, watch the NEWS. Go ONLINE and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those SOCIAL NETWORKS. You’ll be SURPRISED what old friends you’ll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the PEOPLE you know is IMPORTANT at any AGE.

10. RESPECT the Younger Generation and their OPINIONS. They may NOT have the SAME IDEALS as YOU, but they are the future, and will take the WORLD in THEIR direction. Give ADVICE, NOT CRITICISM, and try to remind them that yesterday’s WISDOM still applies TODAY.

11. NEVER use the phrase: “IN MY TIME.” Your time is now.... As long as you’re ALIVE, you are PART of this TIME. You may have been YOUNGER, but you are STILL IN now, having FUN and ENJOY LIFE.

12. Some people embrace their GOLDEN YEARS, while others become BITTER and SURLY. Life is too SHORT to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. SPENDING your time with BITTER people will make you OLDER and HARDER to be around.

13. Do not SURRENDER to the TEMPTATION of LIVING with your CHILDREN or GRANDCHILDREN (if you have a FINANCIAL CHOICE, that is). Surely , being surrounded by FAMILY sounds GREAT, but we all NEED our PRIVACY. THEY NEED theirs and you NEED YOURS. If you’ve LOST your PARTNER (our deepest condolences), then FIND a PERSON to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to LIVE ALONE.

14.  Don’t ABANDON your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can TRAVEL, HIKE, COOK, READ, DANCE. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15.  Even if you DON'T feel like it, try to accept INVITATIONS. Baptisms, graduations, BIRTHDAYS, WEDDINGS, conferences. Try to go. Get OUT of the HOUSE, meet people you HAVEN'T seen in a while, experience something NEW (or something OLD). But DON'T get UPSET when you’re NOT invited. Some events are limited by resources, and NOT everyone can be HOSTED. The important thing is to LEAVE the HOUSE from time to time. Go to museums, go WALK through a field. Get out there.

16. Be a CONVERSATIONALIST. TALK LESS and LISTEN more. Some people go ON and ON about the PAST, NOT caring if their LISTENERS are really INTERESTED. That’s a great way of REDUCING their desire to SPEAK with you. LISTEN first and answer questions, but DON'T go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in COURTEOUS tones and try not to COMPLAIN or CRITICISE too much unless you really need to. Try to ACCEPT situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a LOW tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

17.  PAIN and DISCOMFORT go hand in hand with getting OLDER. Try NOT to DWELL on them but ACCEPT them as a part of the CYCLE of LIFE we’re ALL going through. Try to MINIMISE them in your MIND. They are NOT who you are, they are something that LIFE added to YOU. If they become your ENTIRE FOCUS, you LOSE sight of the person you USED to be.

18. If you’ve been OFFENDED by someone – FORGIVE them. If you’ve OFFENDED someone - APOLOGISE. Don’t drag around RESENTMENT with YOU. It only serves to make you SAD and BITTER. It DOESN'T matter who was RIGHT. Someone once said: “Holding a GRUDGE is like taking POISON and expecting the OTHER person to DIE.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don’t waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you FRUSTRATION. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your BELIEFS and let that MEMORY sway them.

20. LAUGH. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the LUCKY ONES. You managed to have a LIFE, a LONG one. Many NEVER get to this AGE, NEVER get to EXPERIENCE a FULL life. But you did. So what’s NOT to laugh about? Find the HUMOUR in your situation.

21. Take NO NOTICE of what others say about YOU and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have PRIDE in YOURSELF and what you’ve ACHIEVED. Let them TALK and DON'T Worry. They have NO IDEA about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy WRITING and don’t waste time thinking about WHAT OTHERS MIGHT THINK. Now is the time to be at REST, at PEACE and as HAPPY as you can be!

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER that: “Life is TOO SHORT to drink BAD WINE...

Waren Buffet

વોરન બફેટે ૩૧ બિલિયન ડોલરનું દાન કર્યું તે પછી  સીએનબીસીએ લીધેલા તેમના ટેલિવિઝન ઇન્ટરવ્યૂ દરમિયાન તેમણે કરેલાં કેટલાંક વિધાન વિશ્વભરના ધનપતિઓ માટે જ નહીં પરંતુ દુનિયાભરના તમામ લોકોએ તેમાંથી શીખવા જેવી વાત છે. કેટલીક મહત્ત્વપૂર્ણ વાતો આ પ્રમાણે છે :

(૧) મને મારી જિંદગીની કમાણીનો હિસ્સો પહેલી જ વાર ૧૧ વર્ષની વયે પ્રાપ્ત થયો હતો. એ વખતે મોંઘવારી નહોતી. તમે તમારાં બાળકોને ઇન્વેસ્ટ કરતાં શીખવો.

(૨) મેં ૧૪ વર્ષની વયે ન્યૂઝ પેપર્સનું વિતરણ કરીને જે બચત કરી હતી તેમાંથી મેં એક નાનકડું ફાર્મ ખરીદ્યું. તમે નાનકડી પણ બચત કરીને ઘણું મેળવી શકો છો. તમે તમારા સંતાનને કોઈ પણ ધંધો કરવા પ્રોત્સાહિત કરો. મેં ૧૧ વર્ષની વયે કમાણીની શરૂઆત કરી હતી, પરંતુ આજે મને લાગે છે કે મેં ઘણું મોડું શરૂ કર્યું. મારે તે કરતાંય વહેલાં કમાવાનું શરૂ કરવાની જરૂર હતી.

(૩) હું આજે પણ ત્રણ બેડરૂમના નાનકડા ઘરમાં રહું છું. આ ઘર મેં આજથી ૫૦ વર્ષ પહેલાં મિડટાઉન ઓમાહામાં ખરીદ્યું હતું. મારા આ નાનકડા ઘરમાં કોઈ દીવાલો કે બહાર તારની વાડ નથી. મારા ઘરમાં મારે જેની જરૂર છે તેટલી ચીજવસ્તુઓ જ ઉપલબ્ધ છે. તમારે જરૂર છે તે કરતાં વધુ કોઈ પણ ચીજની ખરીદી ન કરો. તમારાં બાળકોને પણ એમ જ શીખવો કે જરૂરિયાત કરતાં વધારાની ચીજવસ્તુઓની ખરીદી કરી પૈસા
ન બગાડે.

(૪) હું મારી મોટરકાર જાતે જ ચલાવું છું. ડ્રાઇવર રાખતો નથી. મારી આસપાસ સલામતી માટે પણ માણસો રાખતો નથી. તમે જે છો તે જ રહેવાના છો.

(૫) વિશ્વની મોટામાં મોટી પ્રાઇવેટ જેટ કંપનીનો માલિક હોવા છતાં હું મારા માટે પ્રાઇવેટ જેટ વિમાન રાખતો નથી. જીવનની દરેક બાબતમાં કરકસર કરો.

(૬) બર્કશાયર હાથવે નામની મારી પેઢી ૬૩ જેટલી કંપનીઓ ધરાવે છે.

આ તમામ કંપનીઓના સીઇઓને વર્ષમાં હું એક જ પત્ર લખું છું. તેમને મારે જે જોઈએ છે તે લક્ષ્યાંક આપી દઉં છું. હું નિયમિત મિટિંગો બોલાવતો નથી. વર્ષમાં મારા લક્ષ્યાંકો આપવા એક જ મિટિંગ બોલાવી બાકી તે લક્ષ્યાંક હાસલ કરવાનું કામ હું તેમને સોંપી દઉં છું. લક્ષ્યાંક પૂરો કરવાની જવાબદારી મારી કંપનીઓના વડાઓની છે.

(૭) હું યોગ્ય વ્યક્તિને જ યોગ્ય કામ આપું છું. મતલબ કે ‘રાઇટ પિપલ’ ને ‘રાઇટ જોબ’ આપું છું.

(૮) હું મારા સીઇઓને એ નિયમો આપું છું, રુલ નંબર એક : શેર હોલ્ડરનાં નાણાં ડૂબવાં જોઈએ નહીં. રુલ નંબર બે : પહેલા નંબરના રુલનો કદી ભંગ થવો જોઈએ નહીં.
તમે એક ગોલ નક્કી કરો અને તમારા માણસોને ગોલ પર ધ્યાન કેન્દ્રિત કરે તેવી વ્યવસ્થા કરો.

(૯) મોટા મેળાવડાઓ કે હાઈ સોસાયટીના જમેલાઓમાં જઈ હું સમય બગાડતો નથી. એમ કરવાને બદલે હું મારા ઘરે જઈ પોપકોર્ન ખાતાં ખાતાં ટેલિવિઝન જોવાનું પસંદ કરું છું.

(૧૦) તમે જે નથી તેનો દેખાડો કરવાનો પ્રયાસ કદી ન કરશો. હું જે છું તેવો જ સમાજમાં દેખાઉં તે જરૂરી છે. તમને જે ગમે છે તે પ્રમાણે જીવનનો આનંદ માણો.

(૧૧) મારી પાસે કોઈ સેલ ફોન નથી. હું મારા ટેબલ પર કમ્પ્યુટર પણ રાખતો નથી.

(૧૨) હું કોઇ ક્રેડિટ કાર્ડ રાખતો નથી. ક્રેડિટ કાર્ડ કદી રાખવું નહીં. હું બેન્કોમાંથી લોન લેતો નથી.

(૧૩) એક વાત યાદ રાખો કે પૈસો માનવીનું સર્જન કરતો નથી, પરંતુ માનવી જ પૈસાનું સર્જન કરે છે.

(૧૪) બની શકે તેટલી સાદગીથી જીવન જીવો.

(૧૫) બીજાઓ જે કરે છે તેમ ન કરો. બીજાઓ જે કહે છે તે સાંભળો અને તમને યોગ્ય લાગે તેમ જ કરો.

(૧૬) કોઇ પણ બ્રાન્ડનેમ પાછળ પાગલ ન બનો. બ્રાન્ડનેમ જોઈને ખરીદી ન કરો. તમને જેમાં સુવિધા લાગતી હોય તે જ વસ્ત્રો, ચશ્માં કે જૂતાં પહેરો.

(૧૭) બિનજરૂરી ચીજવસ્તુઓની ખરીદી કરી પૈસા બરબાદ ન કરો. તમને જેની જરૂરિયાત છે તે જ વસ્તુઓ ખરીદો.

(૧૮) આખરે તમારું જીવન એ તમારું જ છે. બીજાઓ તમારા જીવન પર રાજ કરે તેવી તક બીજાઓને ન આપો. તમને જરૂર જ ન હોય છતાં કોઈ બ્રાન્ડનેમવાળી જ ઘડિયાળ તમે ખરીદો છો ત્યારે એ બ્રાન્ડ ધરાવતી કંપની આડકતરી રીતે તમારી પર રાજ કરે છે તે સત્ય સમજો.

(૧૯) વિશ્વના સુખી લોકો પાસે વિશ્વની શ્રેષ્ઠ બ્રાન્ડ ધરાવતી ચીજવસ્તુઓ હોતી જ નથી. તેમની પાસે જે ઉપલબ્ધ છે તેની જ તેઓ કદર કરે છે.
વિશ્વના બીજા નંબરના સહુથી ધનિક એવા વોરન બફેટને વિશ્વના સહુથી વધુ ધનવાન એવા બિલ ગેટ્સે એક વાર મળવાનું નક્કી કર્યું. બિલ ગેટ્સ માનતા હતા કે મારી અને વોરન બફેટ વચ્ચે કાંઈ જ ‘કોમન’ નથી. તેથી બિલ ગેટ્સે માન્યું કે વોરન બફેટ સાથે મારી અડધો કલાકની મિટિંગ પૂરતી છે, પરંતુ બિલ ગેટ્સ વોરન બફેટને મળવા ગયા અને વોરન બફેટ પાસેથી તેઓ પૂરા ૧૦ કલાક બાદ ઊભા થયા. તે દિવસ બાદ બિલ ગેટ્સ વોરન બફેટના ભક્ત અને પ્રશંસક બની ગયા.
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Simple parenting tips

Child psychologist and Behavioral Management🙇 To all parents and even grandparents, as well as teachers, here are some unnbelievably simple parenting ideas that work.👇

1. Children need a minimum of eight  touches during a day to feel connected to a parent.

If they’re going through a particularly challenging time, it’s a minimum of 12 a day. This doesn’t have to be a big deal; it could be the straightening of a collar, a pat on the shoulder or a simple hug.

2. Each day, children need one meaningful eye-to-eye conversation with a parent.

It is especially important for babies to have that eye contact, but children of all ages need us to slow down and look them in the eyes.

3. There are nine minutes during the day that have the greatest impact on a child:

the first three minutes right after they wake up
the three minutes after they come home from school
the last three minutes of the day before they go to bed
We need to make those moments special and help our children feel loved.
These are simple, right? Nothing really earth-shattering here.

Try it.
1⃣ Whenever u feel like scolding or beating your child, take a deep breath, or count 1-10 and then act.
2⃣ Let's ask them to study their favorite subject on their own..
3⃣ Send them to one exam without studying at all..
4⃣ Remember what our kids are learning in 5th std is taught to 7th std abroad..
5⃣ Lets keep our kids out of unwanted competition.
6⃣ 80% of what kids are learning ,won't be useful to them in future..
7⃣ Our kids can really afford to do whatever they want to do in future .
8⃣ Higher degrees don't guaranty success and happiness..
9⃣ Not all the highly educated people do well professionally.
And not all who do well professionally are the happiest ones..
🔟 Kids are always in a party mood.. don't spoil their childhood. Support and let them be what they want to be.

I enjoy being a doctor

I enjoy being a doctor. My businessmen, engineer and software friends might earn more than me, bankers may have more benefits than me. But I still enjoy being a doctor because I can make someone better, because I can save a family, because I am part of a miracle many a times and because I am symbol of hope in despair.😊

My profession has given me enough. Being doctor I have more than enough money to raise my kids, have a decent house, enjoy little hobbies, & needs are met.
I am also amongst the most intelligent and the top elite professionals in the world. 😊

I am thankful to all my patients who put their trust and faith in me and I wouldn't let them down. I am thankful to God that He helped me to gain skills, which now I can contribute and can have a meaning in someone's life. 😊

Yes, it is stressful. I agree, I work very hard, without a doubt, I have many sleepless nights. I have worked days together without holidays, vacations or weekends. 😊

End of the day, it is my choice. I am leading a much easier life than those soldiers, army men, officers who stay in tents in snow, deserts and jungles and die every day for us, and what a shame they die unknown. They are doing a tremendous job as well. All professions have challenges but not all have such returns as this one. 😊

My profession has given a meaning to my life, it is my turn to justify that. I love being a doctor, actually I feel blessed being one !!! 😊

This one is dedicated to all my doctor colleagues and friends who are doing a great job wherever they are & whatever might be the circumstances, they are making a difference in someone's life!😊